Forget the big dramatic resentment that ends in a slammed door or a three-hour rant.
The real drainers are tiny.

They sound like:

• “It’s fine, don’t worry, I’ll sort it.”

• “Honestly it’s okay.”

• “It doesn’t matter.”

• “I don’t want to make a fuss.”

These tiny moments feel harmless.
But emotionally?
It’s like giving away £1 every time you say it.

By the end of the week, you’ve accidentally handed out your entire mental payroll.

WHY IT DRAINS YOU SO MUCH

Because your body is basically running a silent emotional tab.

Every time you swallow a feeling, you’re storing it for later — like a weird emotional cupboard full of “I should’ve said something” and “why am I always the one bending?”

Think of it like having 57 open tabs in your brain.
Nothing big enough to crash the system…
but definitely enough to slow everything down until your soul starts buffering.

SIGNS YOU’RE LEAKING ENERGY LIKE A BROKEN TAP

If you’re nodding along to any of these, congratulations — you’ve got an energy leak:

• You’re exhausted after simple human interaction

• You do tiny favours for people and then feel weirdly irritated after

• You replay “what I should have said” in the shower

• You say yes… and instantly regret it

• You avoid messages because replying feels like work

• You’re constantly in “I’m fine” mode and you are, in fact… not fine

This isn’t personality.
This is emotional over-drafting.

HOW TO FIX IT (WITHOUT BEING A DRAMA QUEEN)

You don’t need a big confrontation.
You don’t need to write a three-page essay on boundaries.

You just need this one rule:

If it’s going to annoy you later, say “no” now.

That’s it.
That’s the fix.

Say no early.
Say yes only when your body doesn’t start screaming internally.
Be brutally honest in micro-moments.

You’ll be shocked how quickly your energy climbs back up like it’s been plugged into a fast charger.